All humans have emotional triggers: One trigger is a reminder of past trauma. Someone says something, we read an email, some sort of event happens and your current mood changes in a flash.
We feel upset, out of balance, irrational, and overwhelmed with emotion. Triggers can give us clues as to what is unresolved and in need of treatment.
What are triggers?
Have you ever lost control of your emotions, acting out of proportion to the situation, in the heat of the moment?
When triggered, our ability to think and act is markedly impaired.
Emotional triggers are intensely reactive places hidden deep inside that surface when we are active. The ability to master our emotional response is a core skill.
Triggers are always personal. What triggers you may not trigger me. They are shaped by our life history. We focus on the person and their behavior as dangerous or unsafe. But the real danger is what we keep inside ourselves.
Because of our stored memories, our reaction may seem out of proportion to the event.
Our triggers activate strong feelings and memories that can track back to our childhood – the effects of not being valued or seen by parents, abandoned, or emotionally absent parents. It could be divorce, death, physical or emotional abuse.
When triggered, you may withdraw emotionally and simply feel hurt or angry (the flight response). You may react aggressively (fight reaction). Your reaction is so immediate and intense because you are defending against a painful feeling that has come up.
Common triggers: Being betrayed, rejected, treated unfairly, ignored or ostracized. Your emotional triggers are wounds that need healing. These beliefs are based on fear and not on present reality.
When we are triggered there is a lot of past history involved in that moment. There is an unresolved energy that has been triggered and is looking for release. That energy is needed by the adult in us.
If you are a trigger but trying your best not to be a trigger, you will find yourself quite preoccupied with yourself and your thoughts. If you’re with other people, it’s hard to find the ability to relate to another.
There may be an easier way for you to honor what is here. “Yes, I am active”. You may find inner chaos and friction that you were trying to calm down. You are being clear with what you have here. This is an important step.
Many of us have been running away from our pain for too long. We detach from the people, things, and events that trigger us. Especially if this has happened to us before.
We believe that avoiding what hurts us is the only way to keep ourselves from feeling more pain. it is tiring. We have unresolved hurts that need to be addressed.
Our triggers can force us to see things we’d prefer not to face: shame, sadness, anger, and painful memories we’ve worked so hard to repress.
As we heal, we learn that avoiding triggers does much more harm than good. They never go away and may end up causing you even more pain.
When we are triggered, we are drawn to areas that still require healing and integration. If you allow yourself to look within and go on a journey of exploration, you open up to the healing process.
By using compassion and looking directly at our triggers we begin to reclaim our power over the pain that is holding us back. Start paying attention to what produces the most intense reaction.
You need to develop a practice for presence and be conscious of being proactive. Don’t rush into reaction. It is developing the habit of not acting when triggered.
Tell your name – Identify what is happening. simply by allowing yourself to accept i’m triggered, You get out of the position of a powerless survivor just by naming it.
It doesn’t erase the emotions churning through you.
It gives you more access to your adult self and your witness and observer self.
You can have more rational thought and space to rest, breathe, and center yourself.
Every time we interrupt ‘getting triggered’ and start an exercise, it’s like a muscle getting stronger through repeated use. We are creating new neural pathways that, over time, begin to develop this new habit.
Emotion regulation is a challenging skill for most people to master, and it is not easy to identify triggers on your own. Receive guidance to help you find the root of your triggers and process unresolved feelings, emotions, and energy.
Develop your awareness of the signals in the body when you are reacting to a trigger – changes in your breathing, stopping tension – understand how to calm yourself down and shift your emotional state.
My sessions provide a safe space to identify triggering situations and explore the possible causes behind your triggers.
Empower yourself to learn to manage your triggers. Releasing held emotions allows you to heal triggers that cause unrelenting energy. Step forward to embrace your true power.